A Real Emotional Girl: A Memoir of Love and Loss

A Real Emotional Girl tells the true story of young Tanya, growing up in the wonderland of her family’s summer camp. At sixteen, this idyllic life is interrupted when she must face her father’s sudden illness. Tanya, her mother, and two brothers find themselves cramped in a tiny cabin in a tiny town in northern Wisconsin in the dead of winter. There they wait for her father to die of cancer. Separated from friends and civilization, Tanya has only her fears and uncertainty for company.

At the age of twenty, Tanya loses a man who was not only her father but a surrogate father to thousands. Richard Chernov was a man who shared himself, humor and all, with just about everyone who would let him. And with this same unflagging commitment and passion, Tanya shares her struggles and the blessings she finds in them. Her memoir is a complex amalgam of human strength and fragility, which creates an inimitable coming-of-age story. This is a story of family and pain, of survival and growing up, and ultimately of love. For anyone who has ever experienced loss, A Real Emotional Girl offers a glimpse, provocative in its raw honesty, into the nature of grief and the positive transformation that can follow.

“A contemplative, profoundly moving meditation on life, love and death.”Kirkus (starred review)

“In this engaging debut work…Chernov re-creates the emotional devastation wrought by her father’s death, followed by a gradual realization of what was most valuable in their relationship.”  Publishers Weekly

A Real Emotional Girl explores how difficult it is to acknowledge death—and to find the time and space to grieve—in our distracted, fast-paced culture. Fortunately for us, Chernov has taken that time and, with poetry and grit, brought her remarkable family’s story vividly to life.”  Zoe FitzGerald Carter, author of Imperfect Endings